From my years of experience in deep one-on-one session work and the 12-Week Transformation Program, I have observed that many people tend to look for the causes of their problems in past lives, rather than in their childhood in this lifetime. I believe that this is due to the New Age, which is teeming with past-life readers who advocate the narrative that a person's deepest work lies in resolving issues formed in past lives.
However, I believe that the deeper psychological roots of this idea come from parents who propagate the belief that they were better parents than they really were. Parents who are living in denial and dysfunction will repeatedly tell their children that "things are fine" and that something is wrong with them (the child) if they're upset or hurt about abusive or neglectful behaviours from the adults in their lives. These children grow into adults who truly believe that their childhood problems were their own fault, that they didn't experience anything traumatic, or maybe one traumatic event happened that they feel they have to "put behind them" and not speak about in order to stay in good standing with their parents.
With a belief that their upbringing in this life was "fine" or "not so bad," even when that's not actually true, a person lacks the ability to delve into the childhood roots of their life challenges. As they look for answers to their seemingly inexplicable problems, past lives can often seem like the answer.
I have observed that 80-90% of people who feel anxiety, worry, depression or low self-esteem have experienced invalidation, neglect, and other forms of emotional abuse from one or both parents in their childhood. This emotional abuse can range from subtle to severe and still seem like a person had a "normal childhood."
Due to the nature of psychological projection, it is unfortunately quite normal for children to experience subtle (or severe) emotional abuse from their parents, but as an adult, it can often be very difficult, even painful for a person to admit to themselves that their own mother or father unconsciously (or consciously) undermined them when they were children.
It takes deep levels of examination and questioning, which I do during breakthrough calls, in order for a person to connect the dots on how their current situation in life was imprinted and patterned in their formative childhood years before they were old enough to question their parent's motivations before they could see that their parents' behaviours were driven by their own unhealed traumas and unconscious behaviour patterns.
I start this with the technology that displays your heart rhythm, measured by Heart Rate Variability (HRV), which indicates how emotional states affect your nervous system and how you feel. From here on I work backwards in a none intrusive way. Observing what comes up on the patterns of emotions and the informational patterns that were measured in the heart’s magnetic field.
I conclude by stating that the reality of how a child's invalidating parents have undermined their sense of self-worth is buried underneath a pile of delusional lies told by parents that they refer to as "The Family Heritage," although I feel a more accurate title is "The Family Dispute." This Family Heritage is repeated often, almost like a mantra, and it can include phrases like, "You were such a difficult child" or "We tried our best, but we just didn't know what to do with you."
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